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[Xanius]

So as many of you may know already I'm white. And I'm dating a Black girl. Now theres a lot of problems involved. For one, when things started out her mom didn't like that I was white, at all. Still get the feeling she doesn't but can't change her heart now can we? Second problem we face, there aren't too many interracial couples really. Sure they have started to come out more but they are still few and far between. As well, I'm white, she's black. Mosto f the time it's the male being black and the female being white. Not being racist with it it anything but you see more White girls with Black guys then vice versa. I start to wonder if it's a bad thing. If us being together hurts the world or not. We generally aren't well accepted by people. Especially older ones really, which is really sad. You'd think someone would just be happy that you found someone that you love and want to spend your life with.

Now, I come to ask you KG what are your thoughts of interracial couples like me and Kain? What are your thoughts on all the types. Not just black and white. Asian and white, Asian and Black, Mexican and black, any combination you can think of. Do you support it or do you like to keep races with each other and not mix them at all? What do you think of the idea of me and Kain having children and the possibility of one looking black and having black features while the other would look white and not have a hint of the features a black person has in them at all? Would it be a bother? Would it upset you?

A lot of this is just random and thrown out there but I wanted to know a few things about KG and the thoughts they have on this topic, I should say as well. If you hate the idea of interracial couples or such, just don't go crazy bashing shit. Theres a sensible way to go about explaining your displeasure with it.

[Lexaeus]

Uh, my cousin was dating a black girl at some point. My brother is dating a girl of Chinese origin (she was adopted by my friend). I can't honestly see any problem with it. America has a problem with it because they were raised to look down on this. There's nothing wrong with it at all.

[KershaFangs]

It's tough when the family doesn't accept it. I'm Hispanic and my boyfriend is white and his grandparents and distant relatives basically don't like everything my ethnicity and upbringing stands for. I'll probably never get their acceptance (even though I do want it) I focus on the ones that do support us and accept us.
I'm actually going up to visit his grandparents this weekend. I'm not going to hide my Cuban pride but I think nothing bad will happen as long as both parties can be quiet.

[Xanius]

Sorry to hear that Kersha. I hope all goes well for you and that you are humbly accepted one day.

I feel like I won't ever really be accepted by Kains mother but I'm fine with that. I want to be, don't get my wrong but if she wont accept me I cant force her or do anything to change it. I know her dad hasn't minded me at all, even sided with me and Kain on many times with things. My mother and father accept kain as family as well. Both never had a problem with her. My dad hates 'ghetto' black people for how they act. The ones that go around sleeping with 10 woman at once and have a kid with each, beats the shit out off their girls, sits on his ass and collects unemployment or welfare. Shit like that.

I just often think to myself, would life be easier if I was black or Kain was white? I just don't know. I don't honestly care too much since I love her the way she is. But It just bugs me really that something could or might be better but I have no control over it at all.

[The Dream]

I see nothing to despise or go crazy about. Just two normal people loving each other, that's all.

My family see's it differently, in a way. They would hate it if anyone was to get together with someone who was not Indian, and if they were they'd still have to follow the same religion and culture we have. I don't understand why they think like this, when I ask they just plainly say they don't like the skin colour and they think it'd be awkward since they won't know our language. I don't understand why they think like this. If I was to be with someone who wasn't my race I wouldn't care, there's nothing to cry about there since I'd be happy. Of course them not being accepted by the family would suck.

I personally seen nothing wrong. Just two humans giving each other some lovin. Being together and being happy. They're happy, isn't that what matters?

[KershaFangs]

If it's not one thing, it's another, man. I look white but I'm Hispanic. And even if I was white, from a established American family, my boyfriend's family is very old timey and wouldn't like how "progressive" our relationship is. (We've slept in the same bed before *gasp!*)
If your only worries are what-if it'd be easier instead of actually regretting anything, I think race is not what would be a dividing factor in your relationship. It's more like a trial and something you both can be proud of overcoming. For WUBS.

[Kingroy]

._. Meh. My mother is black and my step dad is white. I'm probably like .035565 Native American because my living great grandma on my actual father's side is Indian (she has strong facial features to be honest.

There will be people who hate it. Taste and stuff or just plain out racism. It's been surpirisingly easy for my family to transition with my step dad's family. It's only been...what? Like a year or two since they were married and his mother accepts us like actual grand children. His pops too which was surprising <.< we're kinda alike which is funny. His daughter was like my little sister before the marriage but now it's official.

._. And they're all from NY.

My mother side of the family accepts them but then my family is large AF and spans most of the east coast and even other countries like Germany and so they are more accepting, despite their old fashion beliefs.

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Personally I don't gaf. I mean. I do care in a way but only for myself. I want to marry a black women for what's sort of a silly reason which is to prove that there are strong black couples out there. It's a reason that floats in the back of my head and because so it's not anything that really determines my actions. If you're a fine Asian women who can cook you most certainly can get the D AND the ring if we're in love. :3


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I can't dictate what you should care about but if I were in your shoes I wouldn't care or look for acceptance from people. It'll seem like you're trying to hard to bend over and kiss ass in most situations. Just prove that you two have a happy relationship and those who aren't cold-hearted will turn over.

[Dion]

I havent ever been with anyone of my ethnicity. I don't see the problem with dating people out of your race, but the family aspect is daunting. You dont want to lose either side because you love them so much. :/ In several aspects, I would choose my family simply because nothing comes closer to family. :I

[Blade]

First off Kai you need to listen to this song and watch the video. It's about interracial love.

Spoiler

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Now with that said, the main reason most interracial relationships fail is because the couple in the relationship CARE & LISTEN to what others say about them. Love doesn't have to have a certain type of ethnicity or color. She can be purple and the love would be there if she makes me feel special. The second you start to listen to others is the day that the love will start to fade. And if the kid by any chance comes out pink, I won't give a shit because IT'S STILL MY KID. And in the end I won't need anyone else but her and the baby. If I fall in love with a black girl, Chinese girl, teletubby, barney etc... nothing else will matter but her. And in the end if my parents or grandparents don't approve I will understand and in TIME I know they will come around but if by any chance they don't, it's their loss and I won't be sorry. So you see my boy, all you need is love.

PS: I still refuse to believe Kain is black.

[Crimson Jazz]

People like who they like. Not much to discuss.

But to Dion's point, if my family didn't like my girlfriend just because of her ethnicity, I'm not sure I would chose them over her. Now, if they saw that her environment and affiliations were detrimental to my well-being, then I might be more inclined to side with them.

[Dion]

The reason I would choose my family for a significant other is simple; relationships that aren't based on blood are not as strong. If I forsake my family for someone and later find that whatever I had with that someone didn't work out, I'd have lost both my family and a significant other. :x That's how I rationalize it. As far my family goes, they wouldn't mind me marrying/dating anyone out of my race, anyway, so it's not really an issue for me. :/